It’s easy to complain about something. I am referring to chronic complainers who vent out their complaints to people who do not have any influence on the situation. Almost everybody complains about their work, their school or any other situation they are in.
Complaining requires no effort. You can blow off steam and also feel good about it if you find people who empathize with you. It’s even better if you find people who validate your complaints.
When you complain, you are indirectly implying that you are in a situation in life where the situation is out of your control. Responsibility goes out of the window. Negative energy gets accumulated.
Why shouldn’t you complain?
- Complaining about a situation you are in does not solve your problem if it is real. It has become such a common conversational piece that it is hard not to.
- Constantly complaining makes you feel bad about your life situation which in turn leads to stress. Mental stress with time can lead to other health concerns.
- You are causing negativity by focussing on a problem instead of spending your time looking for possible solutions.
I know the next question on your mind. “But, I cannot stop complaining about my problems. What else should I do?”
3 Steps to solve your own complaints!
- Be Proactive — By focussing on talking to people who could potentially help you find a solution to the problem, you get double the benefit. You get to vent out your problems and change the situation you are in.
- Be the Problem Solver — Directing your complaints to the person who you have a complaint about. But, go with possible solutions. This will force you to change perspective and take responsibility. For example, If you are complaining about particular way processes are run by your manager, think of a way to improve the process by not increasing the workload to him and others. When you try thinking of the problem from your manager’s shoes, you might find why the complaint is either unreasonable or you might end up helping your manager and yourself find a possible solution!
- Be a good listener — When you are in a scenario where a friend comes and starts venting about how bad their situation is and you do not have any possible solutions from your experience, you have the option to simply listen instead of agreeing and adding fuel to the fire.
“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” — Eckhart Tolle
Originally published at http://sensaiinsilence.wordpress.com on December 19, 2019.
